30 June 2014

Re-think, Re-assess, Re-align

I often go through periods of reflection on this blog, when I think about why on earth I'm doing any of this ... which inevitably leads me to blog about blogging. Seeing the relative size of the "blogging" tag on my topics list to the right here is testament to that.

So here I go again. If you've read my "Time of Her Life" post, you'd be aware of my mindset in doing what I do in life. You'd also know, that when it gets too much, I cut back.

I'm glad I submitted the "Time of Her Life" article when I did, because had it been a couple of weeks later, I may not have been able to write the article that way. For various reasons, which I won't go into here (for various reasons) I've been feeling quite stressed out recently. I am stretched for time and it won't be a situation which improves any time soon, in fact, I see it being more of an issue in future.

With my recent navel-gazing has also come the realisation that I don't enjoy all aspects of blogginess as I used to. I still enjoy blogging, I still enjoy reading blogs and I still enjoy interacting with other bloggers. What I don't enjoy is the pressure I put on myself to read and comment everywhere I can. I don't enjoy the headspace it fills which could be filled with more meaningful things in my life.

One of the sources of that pressure is link-ups. I get that bloggers have rules for their link-ups and much of the time, a rule (or sometimes a guideline) is to read and comment on other blogs. I understand the reasoning behind this rule and I agree that it's a great way to create a supportive and interactive blogging community. So I support the concept. In a practical sense, though, I simply don't have the time. And I don't need something else to feel guilty about - I'm a Catholic mother for crying out loud, I have enough guilt in my life!

So I've decided to limit my participation in link-ups to only one per week. I've probably been doing that recently anyway, but now that it's a conscious decision, I do it without guilt. The one I have chosen to retain is the one which I feel fits in best with my lack of a blogging schedule. With work and home life so busy, I blog when I can and when I'm in the mood. This, I'm finding, doesn't fit in too well with a particular day in the week type of blog linky. I am thankful for all the bloggers out there who host weekly linkies - you do a wonderful job and I have discovered many great blogs to follow because of you - but I just can't be a part of it all for now.

I will continue hosting Francesca's Festa of Favourites. As a monthly link-up, it's easy to run and I like to recap people's pick of the month reading.

I acknowledge that I may lose readers from being a less "active" blogger. But I'd rather lose readers than lose out on time with my family or lose some of the "fun me" due to stress. This is a little way I can improve my mindset by removing unnecessary clutter in my mind.

I will still blog. I enjoy it. But more of my writing time in the near future will be devoted to creating the sequel to Returning, so I won't be attempting blog posts of amazing merit, nor will I fall into the trap of comparing myself to this or that blogger and feeling I'm coming up short. It's not about that for me. It's about getting back to what this blog is all about - and the tag-line says it all. I don't think the blog itself has strayed from that, but my thoughts have. So now, I just need to remember that in this blogging caper, I'm my own boss. I can't control book sales, I can't control the laundry pile, I can't control the day-job work that falls on my lap - but I am in charge of my blog and where I take it.


*Funny thing, as I was writing about being in charge of my blog, my 5-year-old grabbed the mouse and started moving the cursor all over the place - maybe I should relinquish control of that too! (A topic for another blog post perhaps)*


Why do you blog? Do you sometimes put pressure on yourself to be a particular type of blogger?

14 comments:

  1. Oh Francesca I hear you loud and clear. With everything that we have on at the moment doing renovations on our place and trying to get the plans finalised and then built for the old people, I too have let blogging take a back seat - for similar reasons - I would rather spend time with my family and friends in real life than blog about what I'm not getting done to my friends who live in my computer - not because I don't love them, but because life is for living.
    You won't be losing me as a reader - and because I follow you through Blog Lovin' - when you do blog, I will get to see and can pop over and read !
    Good luck and lotsa hugs
    Me xox

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    1. Thanks so much!

      Yes, we're in a similar situation. Hope the renos are going well :-)

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  2. Yes, the pressures of blogging can certainly get to us. I've cut back on commenting a lot and yes, have noticed some drop off in readers. But that's okay. I just need to keep reminding myself why I blog. I'm sure you will be fine x

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  3. I spend WAY too much time reading other people's blogs and commenting but I enjoy it - however it has to slow down because I have LOTS of work in the pipeline x

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    1. It takes up a lot of time and I can get carried away with it too! Good to hear you have a lot of work coming your way!

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  4. Blogging can be a bit of a chore sometimes. I used to blog several times a week but I only post something when I feel inspired. I must admit that I don't always respond to comments on my blog (I always read them though). I worry that people find it rude but I am so short of time these days that I prefer to go and visit their blog and comment there instead.

    I hope your stressed out situation improves soon! x

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    1. Thanks, it's just been a busy time lately. Yes, I think we all have our own ways of keeping up with things and have to find what works :-)

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  5. Do what works best for you Francesca. People who love your blog will come back, this is what I learned. I have stopped once and for all linking my posts to all link ups. At first, I felt guilty. But, then, I realised it was just better for me. It was eating all my time. I get less hits now but my sanity is much better!

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  6. I can identify with you Francesca. Sometimes we need to live real life in the here and now instead of living it through online friends. Although I feel guilty if I get comments from a blogger I haven't visited in a while I try not to let it weigh me down. Every now and again I find the time to sit down and read a whole backlog of blog entries and hopefully comment too (like today!) I just don't have time for the weekly link ups that need to be done on a particular day. Although in saying that I am half way through a year of blogging a photo a day! Who cares about reader numbers. They shouldn't define us. Hopefully it's about quality not quantity!

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  7. You know, I hop in and out of blog link ups. I like them, but some I find are too 'parenting' for me - which is odd, as I am a parent and write about parenting...but I don't want to read about Little John getting toilet trained or tips for starting creche as I have finished those days, so being a good linky person can be hard. I have my own rules though.
    I link up. I comment on at least 5 of the blogs in the link up and then get back to every person who comments on my blog. That is usually very very few. Years ago it would have been 30 or more, back in the day, bloggers were excellent at getting around to everyone. Also, for some reason Wordpress blogs usually send me to spam. Even tonight, I have had some extra time and have been commenting on lots of blogs, all the word press ones, I go to spam, so those bloggers will never even know...

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  8. I have found myself cutting back too and do worry that people will think that I am rude but I think you have to do what is right for you. Especially if you are writing novels etc.

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  9. I've found I only link up when I know I have time because of the guilt I feel. I love the Weekly Rewind because I can do it over the weekend when I have a quiet moment. Tonight its Saturday night while hubby watches the footy and the kids are watching a movie. I want to write and read but just on my own timetable.

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  10. For so long I was the same - I avoided linky parties because I felt like I had to read and comment on every blog that participates. The reality is you just can't and I think people generally understand that. The pressure usually comes from myself. I use bloglovin to read blogs and I love that, i dont comment on everything as there just isnt the time in the day, but I do like to pop in and say hello on the actual blog every now and then just to say hey I'm here... if you know what I mean. Take the pressure of yourself lovely girl and just enjoy blogging, commenting when you can and not worrying about it when you cant. we will still be here chick xx

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